Quoc’s Web Journal

So, what a beautiful weekend this has been.  It was filled with opportunities to be of service to my car, someone new to the program and to myself.  The weather’s warming up and the days are getting longer…  Daylight just extended an additional hour thanks to Daylight Saving’s Time beginning…

So, one of the highlights of my weekend was getting to go to my Sponsor’s house and the the monthly tradition’s study.  We get to have a group discussion among, sponsee sisters & brothers and respective sponsors on this month’s tradition.  It’s my favorite meeting of the month!  We shared and discussed Tradition 3: “the only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking.”

 It talks about conditions and demands that I place on people places and things.  It teaches me to surrender my “requirements” in order for me to be in acceptance and serenity.  I heard so many great shares and honest shares.  Alas, I cannot share them with you as it is confidential!  What I can share with you are a couple concepts and tools that I learned with respect with this tradition and it’s practical application to my relationships with other people.

Whenever I am in a place of demanding, expecting somebody to act a certain way or do something that I think is the “right thing” to do, I may be placing unreasonable conditions and demands on them.  I get to check myself and look at what my intentions are. 

 Moreso, I get to get out of myself and ask the following question: WWLD… Instead of What Would God Do… How’s about posing, WHAT WOULD LOVE DO?  If I were to come from a loving place, then what would I do for/to someone that isn’t acting/being the way I want them to act/be?  Would I extend love & tolerance and do everything I can to help that person and this relationship first before placing judgement and expectations upon them or am I taking the easy way out and act out impulsively and just create an environment that separates me from that person and harms that person rather than help… In doing this, I am harming myself and separating myself.  So, what would love do?

I absolutely love the idea of before I quit and give up on a relationship with another person or a situation, I need to ask myself honestly whether I have done everything I can to resolve the situation.  It’s at that time when I have done everything I can to work through a relationship I hold to be incredibly important to me…  If the situation has not resolved itself, then perhaps it really is not meant to be.

So, I am gonna consistently ask myself What Would Love Do when I am in a situation…

Quoc