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Some day off I had… I took Monday, October 27, 2008 off to recuperate from the long training week I had… Yeah, I had the day off from work, but man did I have quite an eventful day and weekend!!! Here is the highlight for today:
It was a very very very challenging day!!! I had purchased and ported my phone number from AT&T to Sprint… In doing so and getting on a more reasonably priced plan for comparable services, I signed on with a brand new red Blackberry Pearl. Little did I know what I was getting myself into!!! The Pearl is one hell of a complicated monster!!!
I spent over 1.5 hours Saturday evening with my best friend waiting for everything to be purchased… There wasn’t enough time for the phone numbers to be ported over… So, I left with my brand new phone in hand… I didn’t know how to do anything!!! I didn’t know how to text; make phone calls, reply to phone calls and even answer phone calls!!! I felt sooo darn crippled!!!
The remainder of the evening was filled with fun and fanfare as we went to a Hollywood Squares AA which is famous for the Halloween dress up night. I was too tired from my bicycle ride earlier in the day, but reluctantly agreed to going with my best friend to the All Together Center for their Halloween fundraiser dance event. We then went over to Hamburger Mary’s and had a little something to eat. I wasn’t feeling too good considering I was physically exhausted from the bike ride, emotionally distraught from the complex phone in my posession and mentally stressed from spending more money I really didn’t have in purchasing this phone and the new plan! I stayed and fellowshipped anyway… By the time I got home, I was wiped!!!
I slept in the next day to go and have a family visit in Bellflower with my Sisters Chin & Judy and Brother in Law Micol. It was a lovely visit however one that flew by way too quickly!!! I barely had time to buy V8 from Sam’s club, look to see if I could find any equipment for my bicycle and the training ride, gas up and head back home!!! I got home in time to unload some food and run over to my 6PM meeting… I stayed for the meeting. My friend wanted me to join him at a party. I didn’t go because I really wanted to get familiar with my phone. I spent a little time reading through the specs of my phone only to find myself falliing asleep.
Thankfully, I had Monday off to take care of some more business… I had plans to wake up early to take care to Just Tires for wheel alignment and tire pressure check. My car’s gas mileage is sooo bad!!! Argh!!! I woke up too late to do that… I did play with the phone a little bit more… Now more frustrated than ever that I can’t figure things out… I generated a list of things I needed the Best Buy Rep to attend to and also additional supplies I needed for the phone.
I arrived around 10A at Best Buy for assistance… The nice Rep offered me nothing but obstacles upon obstacles… First we couldn’t get my old phone to sync up with the machine that was supposed to transfer my contact numbers over to my new phone… By the way, I have over 1,000 contacts to transfer over… Then as we chatted, she told me that the Pearl couldn’t hold any more than 500 contacts… That’s not good as I needed room enough to hold between 1,200 - 2,000 numbers!!! I started getting upset at the thought that my current older phone from 2 years ago can hold more contact numbers than this new state of the art complicated computer of a cell phone!!! We called the Sprint Customer Service line only to have our questions left hanging… I lost my patience and snapped at the Sprint Rep on the phone… I was sooo upset!!!
I got home by 11:40A feeling completed defeated and frustrated. I just wanted to eat and give up!!! I made a quick phone call to my best friend who was going to the noon meeting. I got there all flustered in desperate need of a check in. Some new guy who wasn’t working a great program shared… Blah blah blah… I tried to keep my attitude and feelings in check… Clearly it’s not the speaker, it’s my sour attitude!!! My name wasn’t called during the raffle drawing format of this meeting. When it came to the burning desires, there was room for 4 shares. I had my hand raised only to see the friggin’ stand in secretary pick others who “in my opinion” had LAME SHARES!!! I had a true burning desire!!! I was seething!!! I sooo desperately needed to vent my frustrations. I didn’t get to…
To compound matters, the people that were around me who asked me how I was were not really interested in hearing what I had to share… They seem to be in a rush… I got outside the building wanting to vent to my BFF only to be faced off by some other newcomer who tried to give me advice on what to do to fix my phone. In that instant, I just needed someone to listen to me and sympathize with my frustration!!! He continued to provide me with advice… I directly asked and demanded that I didn’t need any advice in that moment, I JUST NEEDED SOMEONE TO LISTEN TO ME VENT!!! By this time I was frustrated and angry, but I vented anyway… When I finished, instead of hearing “I am sooo sorry about your situation and how frustrating this must be for you.” I got more advice, I just bit my lower lip and pretended to listen… Then I turned to leave for my car.
I got into my car and made an attempt at calling my sponsor… People were around me; no one stopped to check in with me… I WAS CRYING IN MY CAR FOR GOODNESS SAKE!!! Couldn’t people around me see?!?! Thank goodness my Sponsor answered and listened to me vent and vent and vent… I felt heard in that instant, but I didn’t feel better because I felt so abandoned by people all around me… I drove home with some of my sponsor’s suggestions… I tried to find the equipment to transfer my old phones data into the CPU before I could attempt to transfer it into the new phone. I couldn’t find the software nor could I find the connection equipment to even get step one down….
Completely frustrated, I just set the phone aside and started cleaning my home… My bathroom was cleaned; my kitchen and all dishes were cleaned; all laundry was done; the home was vacuumed; I even tried jerking off to see if I could relieve some of the emotional pressure!!! It didn’t work…
It was 6PM by now; my BFF called to check in with me… He listened, he sympathized, he didn’t give me advice and just allowed me to just be mad and angry… Thank goodness!!! I went to 8P meeting early (yes, the 2nd meeting of the day) and helped set up chairs. I asked around to see if people had experience with Blackberries… I got some advice… Then I shared during the meeting about my frustrations!!!
In sharing I gave myself solution to treat my situation as if I had lost my old phone or broke my phone and the data in it was irretrievable and that I had to start fresh and new with my current phone. I also shared gratitude for the fact that I have a problem with a phone that couldn’t accommodate for my 1,100 strong support group!!! My GOD, I HAVE OVER 1,100 people currently in my support group!!! And yes, I go through my phone every 3 months to clear out the ones that are no longer relevant!!! This is sooo cool!!! I shared gratitude that I had a day off to get to work on this; that I have a brand new phone with lots of features that I get to play with; that I have enough money to pay for the services I am receiving; that I still have 28 more days to test this phone out and if I am unhappy with it, I may trade it in for something completely different!!!
I got to the root of my loss of serenity… My phone is my lifeline and very very very important tool in my sobriety tool box… I use my phone everyday all day to make calls and text messages. Since buying the phone Saturday evening, I wasn’t able to make calls or text messages nor was I able to do so most of Monday… That really messed with my head. It goes to show how little flexibility I have when it comes to change… This gave me an opportunity to learn to adapt and be flexible and walk through challenging moments… Sometimes it’s the simplest moments that can cause the biggest emotional shift!!! It’s like that hang nail that incessantly nags and tugs at me!!!
I just couldn’t believe how quickly my serenity turned to chaos from snow flake, to snow fall, to snow ball to avalanche in a matter of 48 hours!!! Sheesh!!! I hope this experience will help me walk through future mini challenges with more acceptance and ability to adapt to changing conditions and not become a drama queen, grandiose, belligerent, assumptive, demanding, whiney, immature, pouty, inflexible butt-head!!!
Here are some other amazing highlights that I haven’t been able to find time to blog about yet!!! Argh!!!
- Saturday, October 25, 2008 = I tossed my road bike into my friend Steve’s Durango and we drove over to Griffith Park for the ALC first Training ride!!! It was most exciting!!! There were 3 categories: Category 1 = 12 miles; Category 2 = 24 miles; Category 3 = 35 miles. I rode along with Steve and his friend Lauren (who happens to be the Chair of this here event!!!) on the 24 mile loop around Griffith Park… The hill was treacherous!!! Apparently, there will be more of those crazy incline hills as the training progresses in preparation for the main ride in June 2009.
It was amazing getting to ride and learn all the different forms of communication among the riders. There is a lot of prompting each other to keep people in front and behind safe: “Car up!!!” “Car back!!!” “Slowing down!!!” “Stopping!!!” “Rolling!!!” “On your left!!!” There was a lot of finger pointing for people behind us to point out any road hazards such as loose gravel or unexpected curbs, or people opening their car doors, etc… It was really cool feeling this sense of community as I rode!!! I have a full blog in my mind from this amazing first ride!!!
My bicycle brakes started acting up at the last .2 miles part of the ride!!! Thank goodness!!! How appropriate as they tell me to stick with the Lesbians because they not only will stop and help me out, but they will even do the work that us queeny gay guys aren’t willing to get our hands dirty for!!! It was my wonderful Kris with Kitty Ears that helped me with the brakes… Then when we arrived at the finish line, she brought me over to the bike pump to teach me how to inflate my bike tires… Actually, she did it for me… Both the female ride leaders were straight, but they were sooo nurturing and supportive!!!
I am well on my way guys and this year I am challenged to raise $3,000.00 to help find life saving meds for HIV Positive people and hopefully help bring us one step closer to finding a cure for HIV!!! I will be in touch and have a link for you to help me raise this amount hopefully by April 2009!!!
Sorry I have been so lousy with blogging… My life is incredibly full!!! I have many many many pictures to share… I can’t wait to share some highlights with you on this blog and place the remainder of the comprehensive pictures on facebook!!!
HOW AM I GONNA FIND THE TIME TO DO ALL THIS? I HAVE NO IDEA!!! I have such an amazing full life!!!
Much love,
Quoc
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